Tag Archives: Consciousness

Living a More Conscious Life

Posted on by

Conscious living. We hear this phrase often enough – you may use it yourself – but do you really understand what it means? Do you know how to achieve it? And do you really want your life, your choices and your responses to be conscious?

According to Caroline Myss, author of Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can (Harmony), consciousness is something we seek, and then run from. Why? Because consciousness demands responsibility and action. If I know I’m being harmed, if I know I’m harming someone else, if I know I’m not living up to my own personal honor code, there is only one way to respond consciously: I have to act. I have to change whatever I am doing or not doing. I have to change the way I am living.

Continue reading →

Feeling Your Feelings

Posted on by

Many of us come to therapy because of trouble feeling our feelings. We are blocked emotionally or creatively. Some of us may have trouble sleeping. Some may be suffering because of feelings of isolation or alienation, while others aren’t finding pleasure enough in sex. Whatever the nature of the complaint, as we delve beneath the surface, we will most likely find the fear of falling apart at its core.

Most of us weren’t taught how to give up control of ourselves. In fact, most of us have learned that giving up control of ourselves is wrong, or a bad thing to do, and we’re terrified of the very thought of it. Therefore, we invest a great amount of our energy into holding ourselves together, holding on to our feelings, and into controlling our impulses.

Some of us succeed so well we lose touch with ourselves-sometimes falling into depression and despair. Others among us partially succeed at holding everything in until we are swept up in a flood of emotion or an angry explosion. Some rebel against the very notion of control, raging all over the place, losing friends, marriage partners, jobs, and credibility.

Continue reading →